Monday, September 22, 2008

Im back

And feeling better! Whoo hoo! It's nice to be able to function during the day :) Actually, Saturday I felt much better all day! I had some minor cramping, but other than that, I was good. Friday was just a really bad day for the cramping. But Im good now and Im ready for this month!! ;)

So I read a post from Life In a Holding Pattern and she talked about intimacy with your partner. I thought that maybe I would just touch on this a bit. It has been really hard to keep the intimacy up when TTC. I think that the more we have to go through with treatments, the harder it seems to be. The other factor we have working against us right now is that hubby is on 2nd shift and Im an 8-5er. Well, then of course I spend most of my evenings teaching colorguard 30 min from my house. So, by the time hubby gets home from work Im sound asleep with Blaze and he's too tired to do anything too. So, most of our time for intimacy is on the weekends...when he doesnt have to work that overtime. That really doesnt always work out so well for us. Im trying, I really am. This month Im going to try a lot harder since we wont have the stress of the IUI's on our shoulders. Im close enough that if I wanted to, I could run home for "lunch" to spend some time with my hubby. What do they call those, Nooners, I think :). Haha...but you know, I hate planning our intimacy. I dont think it's something that should have to be planned, but apparantly, it does. And that kind of sucks.

On a different note, we had our Band Invitational this past Saturday. We hosted it, so we didnt have to worry about going anywhere. Which was nice. The band did really well, even though we werent actually being judged with the rest of the bands. I think the show is going to do very well this year :) and Im pretty excited for the next few weeks. The first weekend in October is our District contest, then another invitational, then Regionals, Semi-State, and hopefully State in the brand new Lucas Oil Stadium in Indy. We have been to state for the past 5 years in a row, so we are hoping for 6! It is going to be a great season.

So, I am doing the ICLW this month. Im already slacking a bit. I didnt get my comments in yesterday, but I promise that I will do better the rest of the week! :) I will be playing catch up today. As soon as I get a chance to!

I was asked how Blaze is doing....he is doing just fine. We had an issue with his toe last week on his front right paw. It was really red and inflamed, so we took him to the vet because it was looking pretty bad (he had also lost all the hair between his toes). He was put on a really expensive antibiotic for the possible infection (the vet couldnt tell if there was something in it, or if it was just an infected scratch), well, he is getting much better now. After the swelling went down and he let me inspect it, I thought I had found something in it, but it turns out it was a clump of hairs that were just causing some irritation. At least that is my diagnosis. Im not a vet by any means, but it is definitely clearing up after I did some minor removing of hairs with the tweezers. :) So he is getting much better. He has a birthday coming up too in October..he will be 3 years old! He gets a new collar and leash every year...this year will be camoflauge. I will post pictures after the 13th :)

15 comments:

Erin said...

Hi there from ICLW. I have to say TTC does take the romance out quite a bit. My husband works different shifts all the time and I am a 8-4 kinda lady. I found it works best for us to schedule something just so we make the time. Best of luck on your journey!

Faith said...

It's hard to find a balance ANYWHERE in life, don't you think? Glad the pup is ok :) Is there a link to your band show online??

Anonymous said...

I have no drive whatsoever anymore. Forgetaboutit. Even worse, sometimes when I try to get in the mood, I start thinking about how we should be able to make a baby using "regular sex" like "everyone else," and then I totally bomb. The emotional effects on both of us are straining in this area majorly.

By the way...here is a song for you:

"Skyyyy rockets in flight,
Afternoon delight.
Ooooooooooooooooooooooh
AFTERNOON DELIGHT!"

Mel said...

Thanks for sharing your thoughts on IF and loosing the spontaneity with TTC. My husband works later than I do, (not home until at least 8pm and I'm a 9-5'er) so that means I either have to wake him up early or stay up late to schedule any time with him. It really takes a toll, doesn't it? I think an Afternoon Delight would be a fun change for you guys. I'm sure hubby wouldn't argue!

Your Blazer is just a baby! Only 3?! Glad to hear his foot is healing nicely. Duke had the same issue about a year ago, and we found out it was from our new doormat. The little nubs on it irritated between his toes. So high maintenance! :)

Thanks for the update. Have a great week! *hugs*

The Hultman's said...

Hello from ICLW. Love the last comment...Afternoon delight...! So funny/true!


Have a great week and no more slacking on your comments!! :)

Anonymous said...

Here from ICLW.

Yeah, my drive very rarely shows up. And when it does we're usually busy doing something else. I feel a bit guilty about it sometimes.

One of my dogs managed to get a seedhead of grass stuck between his toes. It got all inflamed and started getting infected. It's all better now.

Stacie said...

Glad to see you're feeling better.

I have to agree that TTC takes a lot of the fun out of intimacy. Balancing it all is the key, but it is so very hard to do! (I have yet to figure it out myself!)

Much luck on your journey.

Here from ICLW

nancy said...

Intimacy is hard through treatments. But instead of scheduling it, I would just try for it in whatever moments we had. I would go into the bedroom and dress up in my sexiest lingerie in the middle of the day. During breakfast on the weekend. Or even if it doesn't involve sex, I would curl up with him on the couch and simply touch him softly. Or at the dinner table at a restaurant I would do the classy foot in his lap, something only him and I would know. Or even whisper before an outing that I wasn't wearing panties - a secret only him and I shared.

My assvice would be to remember intimacy doesn't have to be in the evenings or hell, even when you are alone together. Make due with whatever time you have :)

ICLW

Sharon LaMothe said...

Hello from NCLW!! I loved stopping in and reading your blog Hope your week is going great! And enjoy those "nooners" or afternoon delights....LOL
Hugs

Sharon LaMothe
Infertility Answers, Inc.

Donielle said...

If you go home for "lunch" just make sure you don't wear different clothes back to work! Yea, made that mistake once, um....spilled some juice on my other pants, fumble, fumble. :-)

happy ICLW!

www.NaturallyKnockedUp.com

Marie said...

My hubby works nights so I feel your pain. I don't like to schedule either it just sucks all the way around.

g said...

I will say your not alone in the lack of intamacy area!! it has been hard for me to "feel" in the mood due to al lthe poking and proding that i have been through over hte past three years.. it kinda takes the "privacy" out of it.. it seems we have more of a "relationship" with our DRs then our husbands! a friend asked me about and and i said we jut dont anymore.. she said "oh poor B".. haha what about me! oh well some jut dont understand...

wishing you thebest of luck!

(ICLW)

Michelle said...

Glad you are feeling better and your dog is doing well. He is so cute!! I agree TTC does not = romance. It's funny cause all the fertiles think just the opposite. "Oh, well at least it's fun trying" yea barrells!

Guera! said...

From ICLW...
TTC always makes sex interesting. Don't you want to punch those who make those silly jokes about having fun trying to get pregnant?
Glad the dog is ok. I am a dog lover too!

Kate said...

I am glad your dog is doing better! I was sort of relieved when the RE said we should go to IVF in January if the IUI doesn't work. Then we can put the romance back in and sex will never again be for ttc.

ICLW